Thursday, March 31, 2011

Little Britches: Father and I Were Ranchers

I and a certain cutie of a kiddo' known here as Snug-a-Bug, started reading this story tonight! It was just the two of us, and I think this will be our thing for the next little while! I am excited about it! I know that it will bring us closer to one another! :0) I had forgotten how much I adore this story! Snug will be 8 soon, the same age as Ralph is in the book, and I can already see the excitement in his eyes, at the thought of getting to do some of the things Ralph does. If you haven't had the chance to read this story, (with or without your kiddo's), you must! It's a wonderful story!

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

I Love Zumba!

I just got back from my first Zumba class and I LOVE it! Our instructor was trained at BYU and breaks down each of the basic dance steps (Merenge, Samba and Swing), so I really feel like I am learning and toning at the same time! So Fun...and it's just around the corner! :0)

Herbs, Headgates and Heaven On Earth

These three things keeps swirling around in my mind lately. I am giving Ladybug all of these herbs that were recommended by the wonderful Reflexologist/Kinesiologist we saw the other day, and I suppose I'd better figure out just what they do and how they benefit the body. I sort of feel like I am in unknown territory right now, and want to know all that I can about what I am giving her and why it is helping her so well! (Mr. Man and I keep pinching ourselves and asking "Is it just me, or is she talking better?" I really think her speaking is improving!) This is exciting! At her appointment the other day, we basically found out that her whole endocrine system is messed up. Plus...there was the whole parasite thing, that I'd rather not talk about. (Her body is apparently full of them!) Yikes! Anyway...I am on a quest to understand more about herbs and herbal remedies!

Headgates, Headgates, Headgates! There are lots of thoughts swirling through my mind about all I have read! I just cant wait to hear Kerri Tibbets speak to us at the Mom's Retreat! I am praying to know and understand how this should look in our family, and also how best to truly inspire the children in ways they can understand and get excited about! I think I need to re-read parts of the article again today, and take some notes!

With all that is going on in the Middle East, my thoughts have been turned to Israel today. I don't claim to understand a lot about politics or Israel or the Middle East, but I am saddened that our country's friendship with Israel is hanging in the balance, where it was once strong. The last days truly are here, and our Savior will soon come! This I know! I have been pondering about what our family should be doing to keep priorities in order and to understand how best to prepare ourselves and truly create a heaven on earth, away from the world. I've been pondering about the knowledge our children need to be armed with. If there is anything I am understanding more each day, it's that the world outside our door, thinks they have all of the answers...but they don't. The further away the world drifts from Heavenly Father and our Savior, the more scary that world becomes. I am grateful for the opportunity to keep my children "at my skirt", as the pioneer women of old did. Some of the most thought provoking and beautiful pictures and stories I've seen and heard, have always been the ones where the children cling tightly to their mother's skirts. I don't want the world to be their teachers, exposing them to atrocities beyond belief. I want to teach them to know their Savior when He comes again! If I can do this, they will have all the knowledge that they need, and they will grow into mothers and fathers who teach their children to cling to their skirts, love their God and stand for freedom, honor and virtue! This is my prayer!

Monday, March 28, 2011

Alternative Care

So I took Miss Ladybug to a Reflexologist/Kinesiolist today. The medical world is not helping her. The lady that we saw today, was very nice and seemed to really know her stuff! She came highly recommended by some family members! She put Ladybug's stomach back in the right place. (Who knew your stomach can move to the wrong spot???) She said it was up close to her rib cage and was supposed to be much lower, so she put it back. This is supposed to rid Lady of Acid Reflux and help with her gastroparesis. She basically told us that Lady's whole endocrine system is out of whack and also told us that she has a huge problem with internal parasites. Nice! So we are trying the natural care route with Ladybug, to see how it all works out. I am excited because with this new regimen she is on, it should help her with things she is deficient in. Keep her in your prayers, would you? Thanks! I'll keep ya' posted! :0) I am secretly a little worried about what to tell her doctor's about why we are trying her off of her 2 medicines for a couple of months. We just want to try something different, so we can know that we've tried everything to help her. :0)

Re-Visiting The Headgates and...a Self-Government A-ha

We had a really wonderful couple of discussions groups at our Phases HIP Night the other night! I came away from it with a renewed desire to re-read The Headgate article from Kerri Tibbets. Everything she says makes perfect sense...it's the implementation that is easier said than done (for some things.) We are working as a family, to understand what right and wrong headgates look like for a family with some special needs. I will be pondering that this week! After a little relapse with a weekly movie night (something we had decided was too addicting for our kiddo's, even weekly...especially our boys), we have decided that we will go back to no movies for a while. I think we will really just trade them in for some needed books at Bookman's! They've been all packed up and ready to go, but sat here near the t.v. and thus got watched again. Mr. Man and I, are trying to figure out where we can hide our t.v. I think we'll move it to the garage for a while and only get it out for special occasions. Heck...it's so big, we should really just get rid of it and purchase a smaller one, for occasions when we would use it. Hmmm...we'll have to talk about that today! Anyway...I will be spending my free time reading and studying The Headgates today! I've just gotta' get this right for our family! It's just time!

I had a Teaching Self-Government A-ha moment yesterday! I don't even know what page I was reading but it's the part that talks about a little girl named Morgan who was touching all the sewing machines at a church activity and getting constant time-outs. It basically talks about how kids will sometimes choose negative choices because they don't what the positive alternative is. I think that's what is happening with our oldest son. He is in a really bad habit of choosing to whine. I don't even think he knows really what he is whining about. I tried presenting him with the positive alternative today, but he has ultimately chosen to whine and has already lost his privileges for the day. I've just got to keep presenting a positive option and letting him see that positive option in practice for the other kiddo's and hope that he will eventually choose the positive choice. If not, he's going to end up doing quite a few extra chores. That's hard for the Mr. and I, because we really want him to choose happiness! We will keep at it though, and say lots of prayers!

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Ode to Feeding Pump ( x2 )

Oh wondrous feeding pumps of white and blue;
how much the wee two depend on you.
We don't quite know how you do what you do;
But you keep bellies full the whole night through.
You constantly whir like a lullaby...
(what drives me crazy, helps them close their eyes.)
The whole house gets quiet; we drift off to sleep
then you interrupt dreams with that annoying BEEEEEEEEEP!
So up goes the Mr. or up get I;
down the hall we tiptoe with half closed eyes.
We push your buttons (though you push ours more),
then walk back down the hall for a little snore.
Not more than two seconds seem to pass by,
then again we hear your familiar cry.
Your screen says "Clog downstream of pump."
You're turning me into a bit of a grump!
We roll over bodies, untangle the line;
then take a quick glance at the faces that shine.
The wee ones still sleeping, the night is still hushed;
and I go back to bed to await the flush!
(For that means, you stop beeping for a while.)

By Ranee Hansen

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Time to Breathe

I have been frustrated with the medical world lately. It's SO hard to be the mother of children who have special needs! I always walk that line between worrying too much and not enough, about their issues and needs and struggles with things. Without going into too much detail (because frankly I don't have the energy for it), let's just say that a recent conversation with a new nurse (and by new, I mean a new one I've never dealt with before), made me feel stupid in my phone conversation with her. I called and left a message because the Mr. and I have been concerned about some things going on with Miss Ladybug. It always bugs me when nurses call back, and it's obvious they've never read the chart and they think they know everything and that you've called them because you know nothing. (Pardon the vent!) :0) There is a delicate balance between being actively involved in the medical care of your special needs child, and not being active enough. Why is it so hard to walk that line?? Mr. Man and I stop to ponder where our kiddo's would be and how they would be doing if they weren't here with us. Those thoughts are scary to us! Not because we are perfect, but because we know how real their issues are. We live them every day! I feel so strongly, that Mr. Man and I are Ladybug's voice. She doesn't talk very much. She doesn't have the ability to tell us where it hurts or if it hurts or how she feels or what happens when she eats or sleeps, etc. We have to be so observant of every aspect of her life, so that we can be prepared to answer all of those questions for her, to the best of our ability, to any doctor or nurse who asks. It's really hard sometimes! So, in our efforts to be the best advocate we can be for her, we occasionally come across medical professionals who don't have a clue--and when that happens, I have to remind myself to take time to breathe, to not let my stomach tie in knots and to not pull my hair out. Because in the end...they only know so much! They don't know it all. Sometimes they just think they do.

Monday, March 21, 2011

How Much Can One Heart Take?

I just finished reading a remarkable book called Emma and Joseph: Their Divine Mission, by Gracia N. Jones, who is closely related to Joseph Smith. I read the last couple of chapters aloud to my Mr. He served his mission in Illinois and has a great love for the prophet Joseph Smith. I am in awe at the meekness, or quiet strength that Emma had. She and Joseph had a very special relationship. They endured so much together...and then, after he was gone, she lived and endured a long life without him. She was so giving and so faithful. She had such a desire to do Heavenly Father's will, and to be worthy to maintain her place by Joseph's side. She was a wonderful mother and a caring, serving sister to all who needed her service. I honor and reverence her, and am truly amazed at what she endured in her lifetime. Mr. Man and I had a wonderful, heartfelt and tear filled discussion at the things we learned in this book, and would absolutely recommend that you read it. It will strengthen your testimony of Joseph Smith, Emma Smith and the Restoration of the gospel of Jesus Christ to the earth. I also LOVE this: (Especially when Mindy Gledhill sings the beautiful song at the end.) Enjoy! :0)

Friday, March 18, 2011

Happy Birthday To Me!

Today is my 34th birthday! And...today I ate a piece of Banana Cream Pie for breakfast. It kinda' reminded me of this song from Mindy Gledhill, called Whole Wide World. I LOVE her music! I could listen to it all day...in fact, I just might do that! :0) Enjoy...and Happy Birthday to me! :0)

Monday, March 14, 2011

Playing Games

  Friday Night is usually family movie night at our house, and Saturday night is usually family game night.  So this past weekend, Mr. Man taught some of the kiddo's how to play Uno.  But Cuddle Bug can't seem to get the name right.  He's been asking to play it again with his Dad today, but has said "I want to play Numo...I mean Nuno...I mean Beano!"  Yep, you guessed it...the "Beano" name is the one he's stuck on.  He keeps asking to for "Beano"!  Oh brother!  LOL  :0)  He doesn't even know what that really is!  (Oh wait...I just heard a newer word for "Uno"...today he said "Bingo!"  He's so funny!)  The best thing about this game, is Miss Ladybug has caught on a bit!  She's always been obsessed with colors, and is just starting to learn a few numbers!  This game is really great for that!

Saturday, March 12, 2011

It's That Time of Year

We're working on our food storage!  (Rotation and Re-Stocking.)  It's that time of year for a 6 Month Purge and a 6 Month "No!", too.  It's the time of year when we start looking at re-scheduling our day, due to the upcoming heat, and where we scale back on the crazy, out of control goings on of life.  We'll see how much we can really scale back.  :0)  I am SO excited about the "new" Spring season that we are jumping into!  Aren't you?!

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Motherly Instincts and Advocation

I am so grateful for our children!  Not just to have children, but for the very children we have.  They are each so special and unique and beautiful!  They are remarkable little beings!  They make me so happy!  Each one adds such love and joy and sheer delight to our lives.  I cannot imagine my life with any other children, than those who I've been blessed to call mine.  Heavenly Father definitely knew what He was doing, when He put our family together!

As a mother, Heavenly Father blesses us with motherly instincts...you know...that little "mommy voice" that whispers to us, about how to help our kids, how to protect them or about why or how to advocate for them.  I have been ever grateful, for those sweet whisperings of the Spirit, which have helped me to be the best mom I can be.  I am grateful for Heavenly Father's guiding hand in our lives.  He has guided us to therapists and doctors, to programs, sensory integration supplies and tools, essential oils and other important blessings that have helped our kiddo's with various things.  He is ever mindful of all that goes on in our lives.  I know that our family is together by Divine Design.  How grateful I am that we live in this day and age, when so many wonderful, modern achievements help to sustain life.  It is amazing to me, that Ladybug and Wiggle Bug have the ability to thrive in life, because of a loving Heavenly Father, and some amazing, modern blessings.  It is amazing to me, that Snug has the ability to walk and talk, though the odds were stacked against him, because of some much needed therapy.  It is amazing to me, that modern medicine has allowed testing which has helped us to stave off allergic reactions for Cuddle, which might otherwise end his life if not avoided.  It is amazing to me, that some very important techniques give us healthy options for offering calming and sensory integration for 2 little girls who need it.  I have gratitude for my many blessings, and mostly for the fact that Heavenly Father made me just the way I am.  Because me being just the way I am, has made me the mother that I am, and I am a good mother.  I am a good mother also, because I have an excellent husband and fantastic children!  How sweet it is!  :0) 
I know that our kiddo's have amazing missions to fulfill in this life!  I am grateful for the trust that my Heavenly Father has placed in me, to be their mother for specific reasons.  He knew that I was the right girl for the job!  That confidence, makes all the difference in the world.

Monday, March 7, 2011

Gastroparesis

Test results are back. She has Gastroparesis, which means part or all of her stomach is paralyzed. She has a severe delay with gastric emptying. We're going to try some medication, three times a day, to see if this helps her. We aren't really sure what this means for Miss Ladybug, but would continue to ask for your prayers, for a little girl who deals with so much! We love her immensely and wish she could tell us what's going on and what she is feeling and going through! She has an extremely special spirit...this we know! :0)

Thanks!

Update on Hospital Trip

Friday, March 4, 2011

Ladybug's procedure went well for the most part. They did a gastric emptying study, which involved bolus tube feedings with barium mixed in, so they could see if her stomach empties properly and within the right amount of time. Without being too graphic, let's just say that she tossed her cookies, which believe it or not, is a blessing in disguise because she does this frequently at home and now they have it on radiological image. Hopefully, they'll be able to see "from the inside", why this keeps happening to her and then know how best to help her. There is talk of a possible surgical procedure, which I never look forward to, but if it will help her, we'll do it. We shall see! Keep prayin'! Thx! :0)

At Home Again

Sunday, March 6, 2011

I can't tell you the last time I've been able to attend church. It's been at least 3 weeks, maybe 4. Miss Ladybug has an immune disorder, and anytime she shows the smallest sign of being sick, we have to stop, look and pay attention. This morning she's tossin' cookies again! (Sorry, I know that's too much information.) I really think she needs a fundoplication, (that surgery I was telling you about.) But she also seems to not be feeling well today, so I am not sure which it is. I asked her about her tummy this morning and how it's feeling, and she said "My tummy full." She doesn't eat breakfast. She doesn't really eat anything. So she'd be referring to her nighttime tube feeding. She gets 1250 ml of formula overnight (that's 5 cans of formula), every night for her tube feeding. It really is a lot, but it's all that keeps her alive, nutritionally. Anyway...Wiggle Bug (he's 3 mos. older than her) has been under the weather too, so we are going to have a little lesson here at home. After all, our children are supposed to be taught the gospel at home, right?! These little cuties really do know their stuff! :0)

Hospital Trip and Other Stuff (written Friday March 4, 2011)

I am happy to say that it's been a while since one of our little ones has had a trip to the hospital. Today, I am taking our youngest in, for a routine procedure regarding her G.I. tract. She is G-tube fed, and though we offer food at meal times, she doesn't eat a thing. (Any occasional bite she takes is a BIG celebration in our house.) :0) We are going today, to see if her G.I. tract is moving like it should. Wish us luck! She sure is a cutie, and we'd love to get her eating better. If her tract isn't moving like it should, I am not exactly sure what they can do to help her, but her doctor will let us know what's what, when we see him again soon. It would be so great to be able to get her off the tube someday. We just have a long way to go before that happens. Recently at an appointment, we found out that our youngest son (who is also G-tube fed), gained too much weight! (Is there such a thing with a tube fed kiddo?) :0) So we've backed down his feeds at night, and are encouraging him to eat more by mouth during the day! He has a sub-muccosal cleft palate that we will see if we can get repaired, later this month. I really believe that if we can get that fixed, he'll be able to stop gagging and start eating better! Would you mind keeping these cuties in your prayers? Thanks! :0)

In other news about Miss Ladybug (our youngest daughter), she is also really struggling with Periodic Limb Movement Disorder again. These symptoms had dissipated for a while, but are back in full force. She's been thrashing in her bed at night, screaming, waking up in the middle of the night, sweating like crazy...it's really sad. She's been known for having chronic sleep disturbance and used to be a really poor napper, but has been sleeping in more in the mornings and napping better during the day. She tells me her legs, feet, arms and hands hurt. (We don't know if she's really feeling pain or if it's a creepy-crawly feeling.) Meds. we've tried in the past, either didn't work or caused more pain. I've sought many sleep studies, (I think we're up to four or five now), which don't provide any life altering results or recommendations for her. It breaks my heart for her. I know that she puts up with a lot that none of us even understand, since she can't really tell us a lot about her body or how she feels. I do believe that she is one of the most patient people in this world. So, when ya' pray about G.I. issues, would ya' throw in a prayer about Ladybug's sleep too?! I appreciate it. :0)

Gastroparesis

Test results are back.  She has Gastroparesis, which means part or all of her stomach is paralyzed.  She has a severe delay with gastric emptying.  We are going to try some medication, three times a day, to see if it helps.  We aren't really sure what this means for Miss Ladybug, but would continue to ask for your prayers, for a little girl who deals with so much!  We love her immensely and wish she could tell us what's going on and what she is feeling and going through!  She has an extremely special spirit...this we know!  :0)

Thanks!

Not Much To Say Right Now

I am taking a blogging hiatus.  Everything's good.  Just need a break!  I don't have a lot to say right now!  :0)

Sunday, March 6, 2011

At Home Again

I can't tell you the last time I've been able to attend church.  It's been at least 3 weeks, maybe 4. Miss Ladybug has an immune disorder, and anytime she shows the smallest sign of being sick, we have to stop, look and pay attention.  This morning she's tossin' cookies again!  (Sorry, I know that's too much information.) I really think she needs a fundoplication, (that surgery I was telling you about.)  But she also seems to not be feeling well today, so I am not sure which it is.  I asked her about her tummy this morning and how it's feeling, and she said "My tummy full."  She doesn't eat breakfast.  She doesn't really eat anything.  So she'd be referring to her nighttime tube feeding.  She gets 1250 ml of formula overnight (that's 5 cans of formula), every night for her tube feeding.  It really is a lot, but it's all that keeps her alive, nutritionally.  Anyway...Wiggle Bug (he's 3 mos. older than her) has been under the weather too, so we are going to have a little lesson here at home.  After all, our children are supposed to be taught the gospel at home, right?!  These little cuties really do know their stuff!  :0)

Saturday, March 5, 2011

Oh Christmas Tree

Last night was family movie night!  I was SO VERY proud of my kiddo's when, out of all the Disney movies they had to choose from in our family movie case, they chose Swiss Family Robinson.  THAT is really saying something!  ( I think a movie purge is in order!)  It has been so great to see them recover from their addiction to Disney movies.  (Yes, I know Swiss Family Robinson is a Disney film, but I am talking about all the cartoon movies that have been put out in recent years.)  I can't tell you the last time they ever watched t.v., and the movie thing happens once a week, if that.  So what are they doing right now???  They are running around the loft, calling each other Fritz and Frances, Ernst and Bertie, and pretending to shoot pirates.  It's fantastic!  Miss Ladybug has her pioneer skirt and boots on, and is their quiet comrade in the whole thing.  It's 3 strapping young boys, and her.  Luv Bug (our 6 year old daughter), is quietly coloring.  It's very cute to see them all stand in a circle and hold hands while singing "Oh Christmas Tree!"  (When the boys bring Bertie back to the tree house with them, in the movie, it's Christmas day and they sing this song.)  Such a cute movie and a great way for kiddo's to use their imaginations!  :0)

Friday, March 4, 2011

Update on Hospital Trip

Ladybug's procedure went well for the most part.  They did a gastric emptying study, which involved bolus tube feedings with barium mixed in, so they could see if her stomach empties properly and within the right amount of time.  Without being too graphic, let's just say that she tossed her cookies, which believe it or not, is a blessing in disguise because she does this frequently at home and now they have it on radiological image.  Hopefully, they'll be able to see "from the inside", why this keeps happening to her and then know how best to help her.  There is talk of a possible surgical procedure, which I never look forward to, but if it will help her, we'll do it.  We shall see!  Keep prayin'!  Thx!  :0)

Hospital Trip and Other Stuff

I am happy to say that it's been a while since one of our little ones has had a trip to the hospital.  Today, I am taking our youngest in, for a routine procedure regarding her G.I. tract.  She is G-tube fed, and though we offer food at meal times, she doesn't eat a thing.  (Any occasional bite she takes is a BIG celebration in our house.)  :0)  We are going today, to see if her G.I. tract is moving like it should.  Wish us luck!  She sure is a cutie, and we'd love to get her eating better.  If her tract isn't moving like it should, I am not exactly sure what they can do to help her, but her doctor will let us know what's what, when we see him again soon.  It would be so great to be able to get her off the tube someday.  We just have a long way to go before that happens.  Recently at an appointment, we found out that our youngest son (who is also G-tube fed), gained too much weight!  (Is there such a thing with a tube fed kiddo?)  :0)  So we've backed down his feeds at night, and are encouraging him to eat more by mouth during the day!  He has a sub-muccosal cleft palate that we will see if we can get repaired, later this month.  I really believe that if we can get that fixed, he'll be able to stop gagging and start eating better!  Would you mind keeping these cuties in your prayers?  Thanks!  :0)

  In other news about Miss Ladybug (our youngest daughter), she is also really struggling with Periodic Limb Movement Disorder again.  These symptoms had dissipated for a while, but are back in full force.  She's been thrashing in her bed at night, screaming, waking up in the middle of the night, sweating like crazy...it's really sad.  She's been known for having chronic sleep disturbance and used to be a really poor napper, but has been sleeping in more in the mornings and napping better during the day.  She tells me her legs, feet, arms and hands hurt.  (We don't know if she's really feeling pain or if it's a creepy-crawly feeling.)  Meds. we've tried in the past, either didn't work or caused more pain.  I've sought many sleep studies, (I think we're up to four or five now), which don't provide any life altering results or recommendations for her.  It breaks my heart for her.  I know that she puts up with a lot that none of us even understand, since she can't really tell us a lot about her body or how she feels.  I do believe that she is one of the most patient people in this world.  So, when ya' pray about G.I. issues, would ya' throw in a prayer about Ladybug's sleep too?!  I appreciate it. :0)

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Pre-Teaching and SODAS

I have felt very strongly, that I should go through each of the 4 basics of Self-Government with the kiddo's, to make sure they understand all of the steps involved in obedience.  This is a work in progress, as I really want them to have a full understanding of how the system works, as well as to have all the tools available to them, to help them be really successful in governing themselves.  We have been talking about how to follow instructions, how to accept a consequence, how to disagree appropriately and how to accept a "No" answer.  A couple days ago, I made 3 charts for our family.  One is a list of our Family Laws, using only pictures to describe the law and then the consequence for breaking the law.  (I have one with words, but the kiddo's needed something they could understand since they don't read fluently yet.)  Then I made another one that lists (in words and pictures), each of the privileges for our family, as well as an Extra Chore, a Major Maintenance, SODAS and 24 Hour Loss of Privileges or what I call the LOP.  Included with this list, is the Rule of Three (with words and pictures), so the children and I can all follow along and understand it.  The last chart I made is a place for me to write in dry erase marker by each child's name, which job they are currently being trained to do.  This way, when I am away from home and my husband or my mom is with the kiddo's, they know what each child is learning to do for chores.  I think these things will help us stay on track!

  I had a great SODAS session with our oldest daughter this morning!  (SODAS is a problem solving exercise that I highly recommend.  See the website to the right of my blog, for more wonderful information!)  Once she calms down and will give and take in a conversation, she does wonderfully.  We were able to talk through a couple of recent situations, and she gave some great options for how best to handle them.  But even after that, she keeps struggling with the most basic thing, which is following an instruction.  I can't quite figure her out.  Somehow, she hasn't quite made the connection that she is choosing the consequences she's getting.  She did two Major Maintenance's this morning.  WILLINGLY!!  I smiled and told her how great she did and how grown up she was and she nodded her head and smiled.  She had earned another Major Maintenance as well, and this was a new job for her.  I asked her to fold her dad's work shirts.  She's six.  I figured she could handle it.  I gave her some guidance and showed her what to do.  She started out okay, but soon got frustrated and gave up.  She said "I can't do it!"  As is the case with her morning basics as well (make your bed, say your prayers, brush your teeth, wash your face/bathe, get dressed), I always tell her to do her very best.  She isn't grasping that her best is good enough...either that, or is using this as an excuse not to do the work.  I don't know...she boggles my mind lately!  :0)  I want our children to do the job right!  I want them to work hard to learn to do things around our home, to the standards of Mr. Man and myself.  But I also want them to know that a genuine effort to do the best they can, is completely acceptable to me.  Obviously, I don't expect perfection from them.  They are little.  But I am trying to teach them appropriately and balance it all.  I think I just need to keep at it! 

  One of my son's is really struggling with whining lately.  (That and lying and not answering questions.)  The whining is a big issue.  I really think he's in a bad habit.  He whines about everything, even with no provocation.  It's really strange and really annoying.  We have spent a lot of time with him, trying to help him figure out what is making him unhappy in his life.  I think he's just in a really bad habit.  I don't quite know what to do about it, and have been thinking that some sort of motivation is in order.  I might start offering some, small form of motivation for every hour he can go without whining.  Does anyone have any ideas on this?

I just found THIS!  I LOVE IT!

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Sticking To It

Today, two of my kiddo's got to learn that I mean business.  They lost privileges for 24 hours yesterday (and then took some considerable time to get calm, only to revisit the issue again.)  They knew that today was a family fun activity (minus Dad, who was working.)  We went to the Natural History museum and at the end of the day, stopped to get a treat at the museum store.  They didn't get a treat, because they had missed out on all privileges for 24 hours.  They didn't like it.  Our son, handled it pretty well, knowing why he was missing out.  Our daughter was an entirely different story.  She threw a bit of a tantrum and cried and was very upset.  Now they know that I mean what I say.  (I have always been pretty consistent.)  And yet, as I speak, that same daughter is out of instructional control again.  She is a stubborn cookie.  It may take a week or so, of lost privileges, before she comes around.  But I am sticking to this.  I am amazed at how I am able to keep my cool, so much better.  It's because I have a system and a plan.  I also really feel like they know that I love them!  I have been speaking kindly and praising the good!  I have told them how much I love them and that I want them to get to have fun.  I have been able to separate myself from their behavior, and not let it make or break my day!  So far, so good!

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Temple Grandin

I was intrigued to find this website today, about Temple Grandin. I have heard her name a couple of times in the last few months, both at functions for TJEd. Today I had some time to check out what she is all about. She is a remarkable person! She was born with autism and was diagnosed at the age of 4 years old. She says that she had all the classic symptoms of "full-blown autism", and many people recommended that she be institutionalized. Her mother refused. (This reminded me of myself.) :0) Today, Temple Grandin is an accomplished college professor of Animal Science and is the designer of half of the United States' livestock handling equipment. She is truly brilliant and amazing. She has written many books, including an autobiography and speaks at various functions for animals and autism. She gives me hope for our daughter, who doesn't technically have an autism diagnosis yet. (We have been told that she fits the criteria for autism.) It is difficult to look at our daughter and see past her difficulties and challenges, enough to dream of a future as successful as Temple Grandin's has been. I am always afraid to hope too much. However, we continue to be amazed at how far Ladybug has come. She is a joy to our lives and she has a very special spirit. It is exciting to see what her future holds. It is exciting to know that through leadership education, Ladybug has the opportunity to pursue whatever her interests and passions are, and that she can develop skills and abilities of her choosing. When we ask our children what they want to be when they grow up, we can't bear to teach her to say that she wants to be a wife or a mother, so for now, we've taught her to say that she'd like to be "a helper." I think she will be successful at whatever she chooses to do in this world...because Mr. Man and I are here to support her through it. She is a remarkable kiddo'!

Today, she was very loving! She kept walking up to me and saying "I love you, Mom!", and then hugging me. I think she must have seen one of the other kiddo's doing this, and copied them. She does that more and more lately...the copying. She has a hard time reading people's facial expressions and body language. She copies the looks on people's faces, but doesn't understand what's behind them. She loves to swing outside, or sit under the kitchen table or spin on her bottom, round and round on the tile floor. She loves to spin in circles and get dizzy! She likes to talk about colors and is just starting to become interested in counting. Today, we counted cereal pieces. We had 10 Cheerio's and she counted up to 5, by herself. I helped her count the rest, up to 10. Then we started to count them all again, and she told me "No", when I didn't start with the very same piece of cereal, I had titled as "One", the first time we counted. Such a querky girl! I cherish those moments when she hugs me and talks. Her cute, out of the blue comment today was "I a ballerina--I a girl! Ballerina's are girls--not boys! Where my "kirt" (skirt), mom?" How I love my children! How I love my sweet, querky Ladybug!

Temple Grandin

I was intrigued to find this website today, about Temple Grandin.  I have heard her name a couple of times in the last few months, both at functions for TJEd.  Today I had some time to check out what she is all about.  She is a remarkable person!  She was born with autism and was diagnosed at the age of 4 years old.  She says that she had all the classic symptoms of "full-blown autism", and many people recommended that she be institutionalized.  Her mother refused.  (This reminded me of myself.)  :0)  Today, Temple Grandin is an accomplished college professor of Animal Science and is the designer of half of the United States' livestock handling equipment.  She is truly brilliant and amazing.  She has written many books, including an autobiography and speaks at various functions for animals and autism.  She gives me hope for our daughter, who doesn't technically have an autism diagnosis yet.  (We have been told that she fits the criteria for autism.)  It is difficult to look at our daughter and see past her difficulties and challenges, enough to dream of a future as successful as Temple Grandin's has been.  I am always afraid to hope too much.  However,  we continue to be amazed at how far Ladybug has come.  She is a joy to our lives and she has a very special spirit.  It is exciting to see what her future holds.  It is exciting to know that through leadership education, Ladybug has the opportunity to pursue whatever her interests and passions are, and that she can develop skills and abilities of her choosing.  When we ask our children what they want to be when they grow up, we can't bear to teach her to say that she wants to be a wife or a mother, so for now, we've taught her to say that she'd like to be "a helper."  I think she will be successful at whatever she chooses to do in this world...because Mr. Man and I are here to support her through it.  She is a remarkable kiddo'!

  Today, she was very loving!  She kept walking up to me and saying "I love you, Mom!", and then hugging me.  I think she must have seen one of the other kiddo's doing this, and copied them.  She does that more and more lately...the copying.  She has a hard time reading people's facial expressions and body language.  She copies the looks on people's faces, but doesn't understand what's behind them.  She loves to swing outside, or sit under the kitchen table or spin on her bottom, round and round on the tile floor.  She loves to spin in circles and get dizzy!  She likes to talk about colors and is just starting to become interested in counting.  Today, we counted cereal pieces.  We had 10 Cherrio's and she counted up to 5, by herself.  I helped her count the rest, up to 10.  Then we started to count them all again, and she told me "No", when I didn't start with the very same piece of cereal, I had titled as "One", the first time we counted.  Such a querky girl!   I cherish those moments when she hugs me and talks.  Her cute, out of the blue comment today was "I a ballerina--I a girl!  Ballerina's are girls--not boys!  Where my "kirt" (skirt), mom?"  How I love my children!  How I love my sweet, querky Ladybug!